In the last episode, we looked at how to become a better listener, and my two favorite questions you can use to have better conversations. I want to dig deeper and share a workshop all about how deep listening can be healing.
The other day, I heard myself say, “Are you so excited?!” to a friend that’s 8 months pregnant. Why are the questions we are asking pregnant women so bad? I HATED getting that question because the answer was always no. Here are a bunch of better questions we can ask each other.
It’s fun to brainstorm, to be clever, to solve things. There’s a smattering of satisfaction associated with this—at least for me—because it feels good to solve things. It feels so good, in fact, that I notice sometimes I interrupt, break in, or try to solve something before we’ve even gotten to the root of the question. In our lives, it’s easy to jump right in and propose solutions before we even understand the scope of what’s happening. The trouble is, how do we know that our advice is what really needs to be said? Here’s how and why to listen, instead.