ASK SARAH #7: Parenting And Healthier Habits (The Apple Philosophy)
How do you make space for healthier habits when you’re exhausted by family and work?
Here’s the question I got from one of the women in my Wise Women’s Council, our annual mastermind:
“I have a limited amount of discipline and willpower and I’m spending it all on my family and business. How do I keep some for myself in order to make healthier choices and feel better physically? (No time to exercise because if I’m not working I should be with the kids, and by the time I’m with the kids I’m exhausted).”
In this episode, I talk about why the structural and systemic problems affect us all, and why I get so frustrated when people talk about “having more hustle” or “willpower” as a way to get things done.
But more than that, I talk about a strategy I use (my “eat an apple” strategy) that is effective, simple, and kind. At the root? Love. Listen in.
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Sarah K Peck
Founder, Startup Parent
Sarah Peck is a writer, startup advisor, and yoga teacher based in New York City. She’s the founder and executive director of Startup Parent, a media company documenting the stories of women’s leadership across work and family. She hosts the weekly Startup Parent Podcast and Let's Talk, her second podcast. Previously, she worked at Y Combinator backed One Month, Inc, a company that teaches people to code in 30 days, and before that she was a writing and communications consultant.
She’s a 20-time All-American swimmer who successfully swam the Escape from Alcatraz nine separate times, once wearing only a swim cap and goggles to raise $33k for charity: water. She’s written for more than 75 different web publications and and has delivered speeches and workshops at Penn, UVA, Berkeley, Harvard, Craft & Commerce, WDS, and more.