What changes when you have two kids? I’m currently pregnant with our second kid, due later this year, and I started wondering what I might need to think about, prepare for, and learn. How would our lives change as two parents with one child, adding a newborn to the mix? How would my older kid react? Would our schedules change? I decided to ask my community for advice, and I received a ton of replies, full of advice and notes I would not have considered if I were left to my own devices. Here’s what my parent friends had to say.
Today I got a great reader question about social media: should my kid have social media accounts? And how much do you share as a parent about your kid? There are so many new considerations for parents today, in 2018. This is a hard question to answer because I don’t think there are hard and fast rules—I think there are a lot of ways to do parenting, and social, and it depends on your kid and your life. Here’s what I think, and what works for me, and what I’ve been doing.
I don’t know about you, but I have a lot of three year olds in my life right now. These sweet, coordinated, hilarious, opinionated little ones blow me away with their personalities, storytelling, and ability to recall exactly what their parents (or potty-mouthed aunties say). But the biggest surprise for me has been just how big the feelings are inside of these small bodies. I don’t mean that as a euphemism for drama or poor behavior, it’s truly that these sweet kids have such big experiences and are working through how to express themselves and process these feelings. For adults and kids of all ages, it can be helpful to hear stories and to know we’re together in this work of being human. Here are nine children’s books to serve as a jumping off points for parents to talk to their little ones about different emotions, what they feel like, and how to process and experience them.
“I worked for myself, so I didn’t have any institutional maternity leave. With my first kid, I was just graduating from graduate school when I got pregnant and it was a very uncertain time. So I basically scraped it together doing freelance consulting and just made it work.” — Morra Aarons-Mele on having three children and running her own consultancy.