Holding On (And Letting Go) Of Control

We all know the importance of goal-setting. Clearly defining your objectives is key to achievement.

But the way you frame those goals matters. Choosing targets that aren’t within your control (like getting pregnant) leads to frustration, helplessness—hopelessness, even.

How can we reframe those goals to reflect the things we can control? And make peace with the fact that we did everything we could, even if it doesn’t work out?

Today, I’m explaining the three spheres of influence and walking you through an exercise in goal-setting that puts the power back in your hands. Listen in for case studies in rewriting goals around growing your family AND your business that are within your control.

The Startup Pregnant Podcast Episode #048

Some quotes from the episode

  • “When we create goals or expectations or processes that are related to something that we don’t actually have control over, it can be maddening or frustrating.”
  • “When we focus on things that are outside of our control, this can lead to learned helplessness or a feeling of hopelessness or a feeling like you’re just not making progress on achieving your goals.”
  • “[Getting pregnant] is not necessarily something you can control. This might be something you can influence.”
  • “We did everything within our power to try to make it happen. That, to me, helps relieve the feelings of helplessness or hopelessness.”
  • “When we set goals that we can’t actually change, that’s a recipe for feeling like you’re banging your head against the wall.”
  • “When we [set goals we can control] … it makes us feel like we have a little more power over influencing our lives and our goals.”