Patience as a practice
We want the best for our kids. We can’t bear to listen to them cry, we don’t want to see them hurt—not even for a second, even when our parenting patience skills may be waning for the day.
But is it really best to swoop in and save the day every time our kiddos face a challenging situation? Or are we missing an opportunity to teach them patience as well as the related skills of coping with frustration and delayed gratification? Are we missing an opportunity to teach ourselves?
In Bringing Up Bébé, author Pamela Druckerman explores the idea of ‘the pause,’ taking a moment to exhale fully and breathe a full cycle of breath before moving forward. Today on this mini-episode of the podcast, I explore the practical applications of this concept, sharing how it can be applied not just to parenting, but also our working lives.
I describe specific scenarios in which implementing ‘the pause’ has helped me practice patience, from the playground with my child to that moment just before hitting ‘send’ on an impulsive email response. I talk honestly about how I am working to incorporate a pause in my morning routine—with the goal of curbing my impulse to turn immediately to social media and email.
‘The pause’ doesn’t have to revolutionize your approach to parenting or work, but the simple practice of taking a moment to breathe can help you embrace a little calmness and make conscious decisions. Listen in and consider how you might implement the idea of ‘the pause’ in your own life.
The Startup Pregnant Podcast Episode #012
Some quotes from the episode
- “I think [the idea of ‘the pause’] has really interesting implications not just for parenting but also for being a business owner and being a work colleague.”
- “One of the things I’m learning all the time as a parent is … stepping back and watching and asking, ‘Wow, is that who I want to be and how I want to be? Is that reaction something I want to practice more of?’ …Maybe I don’t need to jump out of my skin every time something falls down.”
- “I just want to pause: Wake up, put my feet on the ground, get a glass of water and spend five minutes with myself before I do the emails.”
- “I think the morning routines of mothers or primary parents is often—there’s a schedule and then there’s also being responsive and adjusting to exactly what’s happening in any given situation and moment. I do my best to implement the pause, but it’s in no way this perfect scenario.”
- “The pause is like taking a minute to exhale fully and breathe a full cycle of breath before you start again.”
RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE
- Bringing Up Bébé: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting by Pamela Druckerman
- Bébé Day by Day: 100 Keys to French Parenting by Pamela Druckerman
- The Tim Ferriss Show
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