Alicia Jabbar is a co-founder of Inside Out Incubator, an organization that designs and delivers leadership programs for women working in male dominated industries. She is also an executive leadership coach who partners with individuals to increase their leadership capacity without sacrificing themselves. She also facilitates the Interpersonal Dynamics course (“Touchy Feely”) at the Stanford Graduate School of Business. She joined us to share candidly what becoming a parent has been like, and how becoming a parent in the pandemic has affected her.
When people came to me for a massage, I heard people ask me how long recovery would take a LOT. I attracted driven, high-achieving, busy people — I called them my “everyday athletes” because they managed demanding careers and families, and also did intense activities like running marathons. But when they got hurt, they didn’t want to stop to take care of it. They hoped the injury would go away on its own, and kept pushing through. After months living in denial, they finally found themselves in my office. After our intake and assessment, I always asked: “Do you have any questions for me?” Without fail, they’d ask, “How long until I’m better?”
How did we get to a place where women are expected to do it all? “Social conditioning,” says Tiffany Dufu. “It’s our culture.” Before each of us takes our first breath in the world, the construct of gender is thrust upon us, deciding how we’ll play the roles we’re assigned based on our sex –– long before we can choose for ourselves. Leadership expert and author Tiffany Dufu shares out to drop the ball, let go of the guilt, and remove the pre-set expectations that hold women hostage with outdated definitions of what it means to succeed.